Whether you are a man or a woman, there is nothing wrong with admitting that you are looking for a casual affair. After all, these are the sort of experiences that make life worth living, so you shouldn’t be ashamed of your desires. However, in order for your love life to be what you want it to be, you need a good dating strategy. First of all, you need to learn how to find dating prospects. Secondly, you need a plan for turning your prospects into dates. Last but not least, whether your dates end in a relationship or a one night stand, you must never forget to act like a lady/gentleman, that is if you don’t want a bad reputation around town. So, without further ado, here’s what you need to do to have a fun and adventurous love life.
Where to find hookups
The simple answer is everywhere you look. Every encounter that you have with a person can turn into a date if you play your cards right. However, since most of us aren’t that experienced, you can increase your chances of finding a quick hookup if you visit a lot of bars and nightclubs, or if you use a free hookup app. The beauty of free hookup apps is that most users are looking for the same thing, so you shouldn’t work too much to land a date. Create an interesting, but realistic profile and start matching. You will be surprised at how many matches you will land with minimum effort. Of course, turning those matches into actual hookups will take a little effort, but it is a lot easier than trying to pick someone up in a bar or a nightclub.
Don’t be desperate
Being forward and being sleazy/slutty are two completely different things, so try not to cross that line. It is perfectly fine to be opened about your intentions and to approach people with confidence, but don’t give it all up from the start. Playing a game of seduction will not only increase your chances of hooking up, but it will also make the affair more interesting and more exciting.
Don’t get drunk
A glass of wine is a great way to get rid of inhibitions and boost your confidence, but don’t cross the limit between dizzy and drunk, as that is no way to land a hookup. First of all, when it comes to men, alcohol tends to inhibit the sexual capabilities, so if you want your date to turn to sex, skip that last drink and keep your head in the game. Secondly, for both men and women, what is the point of a steamy night if you can’t even remember it the next day, or if you will end up regretting it completely?
Be clear but delicate with your intentions
When you are looking for a one night stand, the sex topic should float in the air throughout the whole conversation. However, there is a difference between suggesting sex, and talking only about it. Be flirty and insinuate your intentions, but don’t talk about sex directly as that might make you look like a creep or a sex addict. Plus, if you don’t leave a little room for interpretation, it takes the whole fun out of the game, as nobody likes things that are too easy.
Make a classy invitation
Once you are certain that your date is interested in moving the conversation to the bedroom, you need to be very careful with how you make the proposition. Avoid cliché phrases like “Do you want to come upstairs for a coffee”. Instead, say something like “This was a fun night and I don’t want it to end yet. Do you want to continue our conversation in a more private place?”. This is particularly important for women, who are often scared as being perceived as slutty if they are too opened about casual sex.
Try to connect emotionally
Men might be able to enjoy sex without an emotional connection, but few women are able to do this. Moreover, even for men things can be a lot more interesting if there is an intense emotional connection in place. So, don’t be afraid to be a little vulnerable and share some intimate details. An emotional connection can turn a quick hookup into a steamy one night stand that both of you will remember for a long time.